The Physics of Dreams

Dreams, goals, ideas, and happiness; all ethereal aspects of life that keep us in a constant state of evaluation for change. These are all catalyst for life-changing actions, regardless of how they are categorized.

The impulsiveness of ideas and dreams make them what they are, but the self-negotiation could stifle that very pursuit of happiness and that's what we have grown to call decisions. So it goes like this the fire for change is ignited with a dream, goal or want for happiness, then you immediately enter a linear process where we evaluate a full list of criteria of the negatives and positives. Once you've analyzed and weighed the benefits you arrive at a decision to act. But, the action doesn't seem as life altering when it was just a dream because you've rationalized it. The fact-finding stage allows you time to be comfortable with a proposed action/decision or to declare it a good or bad idea.

But the very definition of movement is founded in the propellant, not ruminating. Hello, law of motion: every action has an equal and opposite reaction. Pretty sure it doesn't say every thought results in an equal and opposite awesome list. 

Why is a woman like me, who took exactly one semester of "How Things Work", so intrigued by this simple equation? Well, I have a friend who just left her job as a PR executive and she's now going to be a nanny. Of course the initial reaction is to be floored, but I just kept thinking about how much I admired her gumption. She could comfortably say "I'm not sure what's coming my way, but now I have time for it, since I won't be stressed at an alleged 9-5." And it made me think, no matter what people might perceive of this decision it was hers and hers alone, she sought a way to be happier and the obstacle was her job, so she mastered that hurdle and found a new method of income. Given her open ended responses to her decision and what she would do about this or that, she spent exactly enough energy thinking about her decision and the rest making it happen. She's going to be happy with her decision and I couldn't be more proud to tell her story. Her energy behind her want for happiness created a progression forward that created an action. What's not to be impressed with that?

It's not easy and I'm not saying you should do things without thinking about it, but I am saying it's worth trusting your dreams a little more. To add another well known fact for support I can't help but point to Nike and the most popular ad campaign: "Just Do It." If this is good enough for the Goddess of Victory to live by that motto, then where can you go wrong?

Happy, happier, love

Ah, Valentine's Day... all the typically cliches linger in the air. This time of year always makes me think about the "happily ever after", what it used to mean vs. what it means now. Back in the day, Cinderella was my favorite movie - my dad tells me I would cry and cry once the wedding bells rang and The End would appear on the screen. Back then, the only thing I was worried about was seeing the story again; anticipating the fantastical obstacles fate threw at the couple to keep them apart, but only in the end to see that true love prevailed! I didn't care what happened after "The End" because that was it; if they wanted you to think on it they would conclude the movies with "The Beginning". Every couple has their story and to the larger public once you hit happily ever after, it's just that, it's happy forever after that moment. With all the critiques and comments made about Disney Princess movies we should all consider that as our mantra for love: ... and you live happily ever after. But, see, Cinderella might have lost her shoe that day, but she knew where it was and she wasn't sitting around waiting for the other shoe to drop - she was with Prince Charming, not  Prince "I'm temporarily" Charming "until you rationalize me as less than that". I'm thinking at that moment, when the wedding bells start to ring in the movie, Cinderella decided to live her life in that moment when she was happy.

A note to my dear readers, this post isn't to be taken as naive, it's one thing to fall in love and decide then and there this is love, it is quite another thing to fall in love with the idea of a person and have your expectations fall short.
So now, happily ever after makes me think of one moment. I can remember a physical moment in space and time when I fell in love. When something inside me was so happy and so present running for miles couldn't exert this energy. And with all his faults I can't help but still feel that happy - and when you are this happy, it doesn't have a time stamp, so it could very well be ever after... Happy Valentine's Day!!